Do you believe you can create change?
We all know whatever we deeply believe to be true we will make happen in our lives. First, do you believe that you can change? If not, why not? Did someone tell you it was not possible or you were a certain way or deserve certain things? Is it easier to blame someone else than look at yourself? Did you take to heart something you were told when you were younger? What is holding you back? What needs are your problems fulfilling that keep you in a cycle of addiction? Certainty, variety, significance, love and connection, growth or contribution?"Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right." - Henry Ford
Your state of being is a choice - regardless of what is occurring in your life. What's stopping you from sharing your divine potential with the world?
What is it you really want?
Weight loss, money, marriage, first place, power, possessions, even depression usually aren't driven by what we may think. It is all about the thought that triggers the emotion that leads to the behavior. For example:
Weight loss is never about food. It's about the emotion that drives the impulse to eat. Take a young woman's reactive pattern. Her mother constantly hounded her about what she ate or didn't eat in order to prevent her from becoming obese like herself. She couldn't control herself so she tried to control her daughter. Her daughters response was to rebel against her mother and the perceived lack of love by overeating and becoming obese. When the daughter recognized the decision she had made and understood the true intent of her mother, she lost 50 lbs, fell in love and got married. It wasn't really about food. It was about having her mother's love.
Headaches. Yes, the metaphorical headache exists in our physical body. A young boy is taken to numerous doctors and no one can find a physiological cause for his headaches. The family then takes him to Cloe Madanes, a renowned family therapist, author and founding member of the Robbins-Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention. She discovers that the husband is having a difficult time with his boss. He comes home from work and the venting of his frustration turns into a fight with his wife. The young boy learns that when he has a headache his parents stop fighting. When the husband found peace at work, the young boy's headaches stopped. It wasn't really about the headache. It was about the desire to stop his parents from fighting.
What is it that you really desire most in your life? What is really driving those desires? How can those needs be met in a positive way?
I want some more insight into having the life of my dreams. Until then, I will search for balance so I may act from a place of higher consciousness, a place beneficial not only to us but also to all of humanity. In this place, spontaneous healing, health, unconditional love, happiness and joy thrive. What does this place look like for you? What is your "happy" place?
